My Christian upbringing taught me that who I am is a result of the fall. When Eve took the fruit in defiance of God’s instruction, God separated himself from us and we became shame-ridden sinners. When the fall is the most important thing, our identity passed along to us from birth is that of shame ridden sinners. This is a critical pillar of traditional Christianity because it produces reliance upon Christ who can get us from Shame-ridden sinner to OK or not shame-ridden sinner.
If the atonement is most important, our identity isn’t stuck in shame-ridden sinner. Our identity is built upon Love, forgiveness and compassion. We can move our identities from loved to transformed to transformer, owning the compassion and love that God has for us, while still recognizing our own brokenness and in fact using that brokenness as a vehicle of compassion to lift and build others…to be the salt of the earth and the light of the world.
I have spent most of my life in a constant battle in life with sin. The noble battle in life was fighting against and repenting of wrongs. God’s role was to look down on me and say “keep trying, and don’t mess it up this time like you keep doing. I can’t look on sin with the least degree of allowance, so I can’t accept you the way you are now.” Repentance was a transaction that cycled me between shame-ridden sinner to OK and then back to shame-ridden sinner when we repeat what we were supposed to have never done again. The other reality of that mindset is that when you’re not feeling like a shame-ridden sinner, it’s probably because you’re “wearing” some sort of mask to help you pretend you’re something you’re not.
Start with love. Live like the #atonement is the most important thing. Live like you’re at one with god no matter what. With this level of self-compassion you’re ready to move from OK to Transformed to Transformer.